Caldwell Family Retreat

The Caldwell Family Retreat is an immersive three-day experience designed to bring family members together in a secluded, discreet environment where they can bond, share, confront, and heal. Families come together to closely examine their ways of relating to one another, and to discover how these ways can sometimes be inadvertently harmful to other family members.

During the weekend, parents will learn about four key messages that set children up for success, and review the eight stages of human development that pave the way for children to become fully functioning adults. Parents will reflect on their own parenting strategies thus far, and work individually with family coaches to make any necessary adjustments.

Kids will be introduced to their own nervous systems, and learn the ins and outs of stress, anger, and overwhelm. They will work hands-on with family coaches to discover the tricks to managing anxiety, and use interactive exercises to practice these new skills.

Armed with new knowledge, families will then come together to investigate their own family dynamics. Through four key exercises, families will reveal the unspoken truths of their “family dance,” and see their interactions in a completely new light. The weekend will conclude with family pledges—members will be encouraged to take accountability for their part, and make pledges to change for the better.

While the retreat is designed for a small group of families, at no time are family members expected to share personal information with other participants. Families will only come together during lectures and receptions, and otherwise will work closely with their private family coach to implement the strategies learned along the way.


Thursday Evening

Welcome Reception

Casting the Family Roles

Friday Morning

PARENTS – Peoplebuilding I

The Four Key Principles of Child-Rearing

KIDS – Stress, Overwhelm

Why Kids Make Bad Choices

Friday Afternoon

PARENTS – Peoplebuilding II

The Eight Stages of Human Development

KIDS – Biofeedback

Control Your Overwhelm

Saturday Morning

Family Study I

The Family Story

The Family Rulebook

Saturday Afternoon

Family Study II

The Family Dance

The Family Challenge

Saturday Evening


Bringing it All Together

Sunday Morning

 Accountability and Family Pledges

Farewell Reception


The cost for the entire retreat is $19,950 per family, regardless of family size. This price includes accommodations at the retreat location from Thursday night to Sunday, the welcome and farewell receptions, all meals, and all program materials. Price does not include travel to and from the retreat location.

The Caldwell Family Institute will accommodate requests for payment plans where appropriate. Payments to be made by check or charge. 

Upcoming Retreat Dates and Locations

July 30 – August 2, 2020

Alisal Ranch

Santa Barbara, CA

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Families of all shapes and sizes are invited to experience the Caldwell Family Retreat with one exception: Young children are not yet equipped to handle the intensity and sophistication of lectures and discussions. For this reason, CFI asks that families with children younger than 11 consider waiting until all children are of age, or finding childcare for younger siblings that cannot participate.

No professional can draw a “hard line” at any age, so there are special circumstances where CFI will consider the maturity level of a child under 11 (and a child over 11, if maturity is a concern). Decisions regarding the participation of younger children will be made on a case by case basis by CFI staff.

Due to the sensitive nature of the experience, it is important for participants to be ready for potentially intense and uncomfortable family conversations. Likewise, it is crucial for the Caldwell Family Institute to select the “right” families for a small group experience—an error in selection on our end can have the unfortunate result of tainting the experience for everyone.

For this reason, CFI requires an application for attendance at our retreats. Participating families are asked to complete an online questionnaire, followed by a phone interview with at least one family leader (a parent, grandparent, or adult child). If any family members are currently working with a therapist, coach, sponsor, or clergy member, CFI staff will ask permission to consult with these professionals for additional information.

We ask that family members not use the retreat experience for any of the following reasons:

  • Announcing a divorce for the first time
  • Announcing an infidelity for the first time
  • Revealing an addiction for the first time
  • Conducting an intervention
  • Coming out of the closet for LGBTQ
  • Issuing ultimatums

These are all profoundly important and delicate moments in the life of a family, and should be treated with the utmost care, compassion, and respect. The retreat environment is not designed to afford families the time and space that would be required to handle such delicate family matters. If you or your family members are seeking help with these issues, we would like to direct you to our family coaching services.

Application Form

  • Name of “family captain” (the member who will serve as the point of contact with CFI)
  • Primary address, phone, email
  • Names of family members and positions (e.g., Sarah, Mother to Adam and Monica, Stepmother to Jack; Jack, son of Jan and Stephen)
  • DOB and ages of family members
  • Brief description of family concerns
  • Your goals
  • History of addiction? Explain.
  • History of divorce? Explain.
  • History of legal problems? Explain.

The Caldwell Family Institute provides coaching for families struggling with a variety of different problems. We do not provide mental health services, and will work with our clients to make appropriate referrals to mental health professionals where appropriate. CFI will not provide mental health diagnoses, treat mental illness, or prescribe medication. CFI does not accept insurance, and does not provide statements for insurance reimbursements.

6222 Wilshire Blvd Suite 200
Los Angeles, CA 90048
(323) 547-6356

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